20 Hidden Ways Your Stuff Screws You Over
One of these days, you’re going to start to hate me. First, I tell you that your clutter hates you, and now I’m trying to make the case that your Stuff is screwing you over.
Of course, there’s stuff, and then there’s Stuff. Stuff is useful, and it’s pretty hard to get anywhere in life without a bit of it. Stuff, with the capital S on the other hand, is the pile of junk that you don’t need, use, care about, or even remember why you bought. It’s this Stuff that weighs on your mind and gets in your way. It’s the garage sale find that was too good a deal to leave behind, and it’s the status item that you don’t actually like. Either way, we’ve all got some of it. If you’ve been unable to break away from the Stuff that’s mucking up your life, here’s a few good reasons to give the heave-ho.
You have to store it.
You have to clean it.
You have to pick it up every time you clean. Or, you don’t clean because of it and develop allergies.
You have to rent a bigger moving truck.
You pay insurance costs to cover it.
You use everything a little bit, but nothing reaches its full capacity for usage.
You have increased heating and cooling costs for a larger house.
You alienate other people who are intimidated by your stuff.
You add to landfills.
Your kid makes you store all the stuff you bought them until they can afford a house big enough to hold all their unused Stuff.
You pay interest on the Stuff you charged.
You fight with your spouse about the interest on the Stuff you charged.
You have to figure out new ways of arranging your Stuff so that you don’t get sick of it. (If it weren’t for that difficult ottoman placement, you could’ve figured out cold fusion by now!)
It ages faster than you.
It wears out at exactly the wrong time.
It loses value over time (typically), leaving you with less and less each year.
It gives your mom a chance to nag you.
It sucks up money that could be going to an incredible vacation or early retirement.
It makes you feel guilty that you don’t love it as much as you’re supposed to.
You risk becoming the Joneses. And lets face it, nobody likes the Joneses.
(Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to imply that your friends hate you because you have a set of golf clubs and a quesadilla maker. But I’d also wager they don’t love you more for it.)
Can you come up with more ways that your Stuff screws you over? Are they any major exceptions? Drop your thoughts in the comments and add to the conversation!
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This post has 36 comments
October 28th, 2008
Only in the last few years have I realized that I do not need a t-shirt from EVERY trip that I take. I have also managed, with the coaxing of my wife, to slowly pare down the great pile of t-shirts that has been following me around from closet to closet for decades…
My step-dad was a pack rat and I have been imbued with that same tendency. It is something that I really struggle with. I make progress but accept that there is still a long way to go. Beware the pack rat’s anthem, “it may come in handy some day…”
Adam Steers last blog post..Were we built for wrist curls?
October 28th, 2008
I agree. It’s not until recently when I decided to declutter my life and so far, I’m really enjoying it. It’s going to be a long process as I sort through what I do and don’t need but I can see my place already becoming less busy and more simplistic.
October 28th, 2008
It demand your love, but never love you back
October 28th, 2008
Your stuff seems to multiply over night if you don’t control it….aka if you throw it in your closet, you should have just thrown it away!
Katies last blog post..Fall Conference
October 28th, 2008
It reaches out to trip you if you try to move around the house at night without turning a light on.
October 28th, 2008
It mocks you every time you look at it and realize you aren’t doing with it what you thought you would.
October 28th, 2008
No matter how much stuff you empty out, it is always replaced by new stuff.
Avani-Mehtas last blog post..2008 Blog Review and 2009 Plans
October 28th, 2008
I now look at stuff much differently than I did. I have a certain amount of money to spend on stuff and “experiences”. If it is stuff, then it really has to pass a strict regimen of tests like do I really need or want this thing and what is it’s life expectancy with me. Does it make more sense for me to rent or borrow it? I’ve stemmed the tide. I just have to get rid of my old Stuff!
October 28th, 2008
Hey Sara -
I don’t know if you’ve seen the George Carlin “stuff” routine, but it’s up your alley.
I don’t collect stuff anymore (except books and DVDs.) I try to give it away. I’ve learned to travel light from enough cross-country road trips.
October 28th, 2008
The guilt about “NOT feeling guilty about NOT missing it” is killing you.
October 28th, 2008
Hate you? How could I ever hate you. I agree with every single word. having too much stuff weighs you down.
Had to smile at “nobody likes the Joneses.” So true.
October 28th, 2008
So true! I agree with it. People are always trying to give us crap we don’t need and it goes straight to Goodwill, since they don’t listen to me!
October 28th, 2008
You’ve made some pretty convincing arguments about getting rid of stuff. And I agree…
Stuff takes the joy out of life. When ones clarity of mind is compromised - no matter how small - it’s not worth it.
Bamboo Forests last blog post..7 Celebrities That Would Make Excellent Presidents
October 28th, 2008
You are right on target with this post! I sold a hot tub, boat, Seadoo and some other stuff when I was working my debt snowball for these very reasons. Also, you know what? I don’t miss any of it! I’m relieved not to have to mess with it. I hope others follow your advice!
Jeff@MySuperChargedLifes last blog post..Reader Poll: Is Love Or Commitment Most Important In Marriage?
October 28th, 2008
We live in a 1000-square-foot apartment. That helps a lot. Before we buy something we have to ask, “Where will we put it? What will we have to eliminate?” It’s a great system.
Jean Browman–Cheerful Monks last blog post..What’s Your Favorite Photo?
October 28th, 2008
I’m screwed!
My addition to the list: you lose things. Under the clutter. (maybe it’s on the list…and I just missed it…your list is growing like the clutter in my kitchen…). Really, it’s not THAT bad - but I do admit - we tend to take on some clutter around our house.
October 28th, 2008
I like simple because simple, to me, means clean. I have worked really hard to get rid of it. I’m not attached to material things - and even threw out most of my old photo albums from high school, college and before that.
Stacey Shipmans last blog post..The See Saw - a Metaphor for Life Balance
October 28th, 2008
I love this post! I’ve been on a mission to rid my life of “stuff” - this is just 20 more reasons why.
My main reason is really one of yours: I use a lot of stuff a little and don’t always use what I bought to it’s fullest potential. I’m getting better, but I’m not there yet =)
October 28th, 2008
I love this post. For gadgets and other technical stuff you have to devote time to learn how to use them, and if you don’t they just sit there, mocking you.
Marelisas last blog post..Four Ways to Achieve a Productive State of Mind
October 28th, 2008
You had me at “You Have to Store It”.
I recently started the Chocolate Chip Give Away Game with my kids. They receive chocolate chips from me for the stuff they choose to give away. They get one chocolate chip for the small stuff and three chocolate chips for the bigger Stuff. I now have boxes of toys ready to give away!
Stacey / Create a Balances last blog post..How Do You Practice the Art of Life Balance?
October 28th, 2008
Adam: Oh, I know all about the t-shirts! I haven’t pushed too hard, but I have to say I’m relieved that my husband has finally gotten rid of a few shirts that are older than sand.
I’m sure living with a pack rat has a gigantic effect on your perspective.
Andy: I’m glad to hear you’re enjoying the process! I too have enjoyed taking small steps and feeling a bit more free with each one.
Banji: Yes! I love that one!
Katie: So true! And I like your approach: if you’re just throwing it somewhere to get rid of it, perhaps it’s time to consider throwing it somewhere you’ll never have to deal with it again!
David: Amen! Besides the annoying shin bruises, Stuff can be downright menacing.
Ramona: I know that feeling! The exercise ball is one of these items for me.
Avani: That’s definitely one to add to the list. I never thought I’d fill up the closets in my house, but it happened in record time.
Mark: Life expectancy is a key thing to take into consideration. I smell a post coming on!
J.D.: I’ve seen parts of the Stuff routine; it’s time to check it out in entirety.
Maya: Isn’t it terrible how physical clutter leads right into emotional clutter? The cycle builds on itself so easily.
Vered: I’m relieved! Glad you appreciated the Joneses comment; I was concerned that some folks would think I was judging them for having Stuff. So not the case!
Blond Duck: Don’t you just hate the waste of that? It’s hard to turn down well-intentioned folks.
Bamboo Forest: “When ones clarity of mind is compromised - no matter how small - it’s not worth it.” That sounds like a perfect response to tomorrow’s post!
Jeff: Isn’t it crazy that relief tends to beat regret nearly every time? Off the top of my head, I can’t think of anything I’d really want back. And hey, I’d like to think that some people are now getting some great value out of your goodies!
Jean: Talk about a no-fail system. That’s what I call setting yourself up for success, though it does take a very conscientious person to keep that system going like you do.
Lance: Ha!
And what a perfect addition! I can’t stand losing things. The stress just isn’t worth it. It’s a great motivation for keeping things organized.
Stacey: I get it—I also associate simple with clean. I don’t know when I’ll be able to part with my photos, though. That takes some commitment to clean!
Sid: Thanks! To be honest, I’m not there yet either. Conversations like these give me motivation to keep working at it.
Marelisa: Ooh, yes! I have definitely been mocked by a gadget or two in my time.
Stacey: Dude. Brilliant. I’m blown away!
October 29th, 2008
My problem isn’t useless items, its the stuff I use on a daily or at least weekly basis that I have trouble putting away.
Even something as innocent as a library book can find its way to some of the most inconvenient places in my home. And if I become a Jones, its up to whomever is observing me not to feel like they have to keep up with me. I could have nothing and still be a Jones to someone else. When I lived in a tiny studio, driving a 20 year old car, unemployed, etc, I still had people envious! Thats their problem. I have to take care of myself and my habits, not worry about the person looking over their fence at me.
carlas last blog post..Halloween Safety
October 29th, 2008
I just thought of another way stuff screws you over.
You mentioned having to rent a larger moving truck; for me, its having to PACK all of that stuff! When we move in the spring, I am getting rid of so many books. Those (IMO) are the worst to move because they are so heavy.
carlas last blog post..Halloween Safety
October 29th, 2008
I wish I can go stuff-less. More stuff makes me cranky more often than not!
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October 29th, 2008
Hey I am a Jones. Don’t hate the player hate the game. Anyway, my two cents on stuff. You know you have too much stuff when you are playing more with all of your electronic gadgets than your are with your kids.
Dave Jones, CPAs last blog post..Bar Stool Economics
October 29th, 2008
Carla: You make a really good point. No one forces us to compete, and I certainly don’t think it’s your problem if folks envy your life. But for the folks who think that having the latest stuff actually wins them friends, the truth might be surprising…
Evelyn: I know. It’s the stuff I do have just makes me think about more stuff. I’d like to imagine that without it, I’d be free to think about far more important things. In the end, that’s up to me, though, right?
Dave: Ha! I take it all back about the Joneses.
I like your barometer, but if my dog is a fuzzy kid, I think I’m failing.
October 30th, 2008
Good post! Reminds me of something I read once.
“Junk is stuff we throw away.
Stuff is junk we keep”.
October 30th, 2008
Steve: I like it! It just emphasizes that it’s all relative to how we use (or don’t use) the things in our lives.
November 1st, 2008
Yep, I am on a mission to get rid of stuff. Big garage sale coming up.
Oh, and we need some re-modelling to our house done and I am having so much trouble finding an architect who understands that we don’t want a BIGGER house, we want a BETTER house. I heard a clutter expert on the radio here in Sydney the other day (I think it was the Aussie guy who goes on Oprah) and he said ‘don’t try to cram your stuff into your space, work with your space and only have the stuff that fits it’.
Great post. I’m enjoying checking out your blog.
November 1st, 2008
An abundance of stuff clutters the house and drains the wallet. How many times do we buy something because it was only a couple of dollars? After several long-distance moves in five years, learning to let go of stuff became very liberating. Learning to avoid collecting new stuff - not so easy. I’ve learned to keep just those things that I find immensely useful, beautiful, or gratifying. The motorcycle may take up garage space, but I ride it almost every day and couldn’t live without it. Same with kitchen stuff. Love to cook and collect useful gadgets - cooking makes me happy. All stuff is not created equal.
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November 2nd, 2008
Megan: That’s a fantastic quote; I hadn’t heard it. I feel your pain. We’re in a house that was marketed to people who wanted space, not necessarily well-used space. It’s frustrating to find yourself in a large home that just doesn’t function well or have good traffic patterns.
Kathy: “All stuff is not created equal.” Amen! My dividing line is that it’s not Stuff if I use it or it makes me happy on a regular basis. If I feel guilty anytime I look it, well, you can take a guess…
December 22nd, 2008
Another reason why Stuff sucks is because it makes it harder for you to find stuff!
January 6th, 2009
I’m in total agreement with Carla on the packing front! We’re doing a cross-country move this year and I am getting rid of so much stuff before we go. My goal with the help of space clearing expert and author, Stephanie Bennett Vogt and her book “Your Spacious Self” is to only move the stuff that will actually fit in the back of my truck.
January 12th, 2009
I never collect stuff or clutter purposely, but I do have some clothes from the 70s.
But I hold on to them just in case they come back LOL
Kiefers last blog post..Why you shouldn’t diet
January 25th, 2009
opportunity cost. turning money into stuff is trivial, but stuff doesn’t become money again.
yeah paying for stuff isn’t remotely “hidden”. but the *accumulation* of those nickels and dimes is quite hidden, and shockingly large. know anybody who doesn’t have an emergency fund but who DOES have a brand new cell phone? i bet you do.
January 26th, 2009
You end up buying another of something you couldn’t find because it was lost amongst all your other Stuff. Done that too many times. It’s the worst type of purchase ever.
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