Meditation One, Two, Three
Today I’m excited to present a guest post from author Paul Maurice Martin. Paul’s experiences with Trappist monks as well as years in education help him lend a unique perspective to the topic of meditation. Enjoy! —S.
Meditation is often discussed online today. But sometimes I think it’s discussed to the point of making it sound more complicated than it is.
Essence of Meditation
Shut up, mind! – Honestly… that’s it. We talk to ourselves constantly – most of us without actually moving our lips or muttering unless it’s a really bad day. Still, we’re continuously planning, problem solving, and reacting to events around us or to remembered events.
Meditation’s Purpose
If you get your mind to be quiet it does things you didn’t know it could. I’d truly recommend that you not do a lot of reading about meditation before trying it out. Otherwise part of what you’ll need to not think about is your expectations about meditation – and you already have enough not to think about.
Besides, who can say exactly what you’ll get from it? Some just find it relaxing. Others have major spiritual experiences or notice gradual improvement in how they feel about themselves in their day to day lives. Others get nuthin — nuthin!
Three Steps
1. Have a seat – But don’t get too comfortable. You’ll want to sit up straight. A recliner’s no good; it’s too easy to get sleepy.
2. Relax – Take a couple minutes to take a deep breath, relax your muscles, clear your head, and then…
3. Pick a word – the one you’ll use for your meditation sessions – and start using it. Something simple that you like. Make it one syllable. Examples: love, God, peace. It could even just be a sound, like the traditional “Om…” Gently repeat the word each time you exhale.
You’re really going to need this word. It has one purpose: when your mind starts to wander off to what you’re planning for lunch or whether you remembered to take the trash out, it’s your anchor. At every exhalation you’ll refocus back to just the sound of the word and not its meaning. The word is to disrupt and drive away your mental chatter.
Three Suggestions
- Start off with whatever you can take – probably two to five minutes. At first it’s really hard not to think.
- Work up to twenty or thirty-minute sessions that fit with your schedule – for example, twice a day, once a day, or (at least) once every other day.
- All you can do is try it out. Some people don’t get anything out of it and stop. However, I’ll mention that I was just about to stop after several months of nothing happening when things started happening. From then on, it changed my life.
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Paul Martin is author of Original Faith: What Your Life Is Trying to Tell You and blogs at Original Faith, where you can download his free eBook, Original Faith: Hard Times Handbook and learn more about book and author.
Editor’s Note: I recommend reading Paul’s bio at his website; he’s got an interesting backstory that makes his perspective on faith even more inspiring.






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October 6th, 2009
Paul, this is a very good approach to meditation—simply, direct, compassionate. I love it. And if anyone is scared away by the prospect of meditation, this sure could cure any woes…
I love what you suggest about not reading books about meditation before you do it. I think that was my problem for many years. Doing so set me up for failure. I put so many “shoulds” on myself about it, that I failed miserable. Plus hated to even try to meditate!
If people understood that meditation is not about blasting off to nirvana (which, as you say is virtually impossible for a beginner because of how our minds work), but just be-ing with ourselves in a gentle way–to give us an opportunity to know ourself, to spend time with our precious self–it’s just a lovely being-with practice. Now I love it. And I don’t do it for long periods of “sitting.” Just small periods of being my own best friend…and with the Divine as I have come to understand it…even with the chatter! Thank you, friend…
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October 6th, 2009
Simply said, and easy to apply. I have done this, but on a reclining position, and as expected, I dozed off.
The mind chatters too much. When I read the first two lines, I had fruitcake in my mind, as in association with the Trappists, and not what you might think, lol.
Thank you, Paul, for writing it so simply. Meditation does give one clarity of mind.
And thank you Sara, this has been a wonderful place to visit.
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October 6th, 2009
Cool tips on meditation! I’ve also heard that focusing on your breathing also helps keep your mind from wandering all over the place.
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October 6th, 2009
Paul, this is a very good approach to meditation—simply, direct, compassionate. I love it. And if anyone is scared away by the prospect of meditation, this sure could cure any woes…
I love what you suggest about not reading books about meditation before you do it. I think that was my problem for many years. Doing so set me up for failure. I put so many “shoulds” on myself about it, that I failed miserable. Plus hated to even try to meditate!
If people understood that meditation is not about blasting off to nirvana (which, as you say is virtually impossible for a beginner because of how our minds work), but just be-ing with ourselves in a gentle way–to give us an opportunity to know ourself, to spend time with our precious self–it’s just a lovely being-with practice. Now I love it. And I don’t do it for long periods of “sitting.” Just small periods of being my own best friend…and with the Divine as I have come to understand it…even with the chatter! Thank you, friend…
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October 6th, 2009
Jan – Exactly. I think part of the reason it took me as long as it did to get something from meditating was “great expectations.”
Pauline – About that reclining position… After I’d been meditating for years, I started using it for insomnia! That is, I’d use the same tactic of getting my mind not to think to rid myself of anxious thoughts and get to sleep. Of course if you’re trying to meditate rather than sleep, it’s better to be sitting up straight…
Tristan – Yes… after several years, I found the word dropping away and my breathing was enough to keep me focused.
October 6th, 2009
I often wondered about the essence of meditation. It sounds similar to self-hypnosis, which I started learning as a teen to help put myself to sleep.
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October 6th, 2009
Greg, to me it looks like what happens during meditation may in part depend on how much one practices it and partly on some sort of predisposition for the “one with the universe” or non-dualistic type of experience that it can produce. I’ve known people who say they’ve really given it a shot – smart, thoughtful, spiritual people – but nothing much happened.
I do think some people must quit too early, based on how long it took me to start getting anything from it.
Also, people sometimes use the word “meditation” when they really mean something more like “quiet reflection” – and not the suspension of thought that can give rise to non dualistic experience.
October 6th, 2009
It’s so great that you simplify this, and recommend starting with just a few minutes. So people can work up to it without feeling guilty. So important because there’s often this expectation that you must suck it up and keep at it. Your perspective is refreshing, in line with one of the best books I read years ago, “The Relaxation Response.” I don’t even know if it’s still available, but the author simplified it exactly as you have. The word he used is “one.”
Thanks!
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October 6th, 2009
Patty, thanks. Another simple version is the centering prayer as taught by Thomas Keating and Basil Pennington. That’s how I learned it – from a small leaflet that Fr. Basil handed me. I think it may have contained the word “God” but I’m really not even sure of that.
It really wasn’t about doctrine. “Contemplative prayer” and “meditation” refer to doing the same thing, which is getting your mind to be quiet so it has a chance to open up to… whatever word you want to use. Life, God, the universe – it’s a form of experience that finally isn’t about words at all.
October 8th, 2009
It’s the best and effective way to meditate. Will definitely used it as a reference. Thanks for sharing.
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October 10th, 2009
Patrice, I’m glad you found this useful.
December 5th, 2009
Thanks… I appreciated this piece. I believe that meditation is any practice that leads to a calm, uncluttered mind. It could be running or washing the dishes. You can read more about “finding your happy place” here: http://organize-more-stress-less.squarespace.com/home/2009/11/20/find-your-happy-place.html
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