How to Party Like a Five Year Old
Posted on February 13th, 2009 in Happiness
Forget lifestyle gurus, it’s five year olds who really know how to live. They have the whole world ahead of them, and they know it. (They also have a few embarrassing wet pants moments still ahead of them, but don’t we all?) I have the pleasure of working with this age group a few times a week, and here’s what I’ve learned from these mini mavens.Play Doesn’t Have to Have a Purpose
Sometimes building a tower is just building a tower. It doesn’t have to be the best block tower ever, win you an award, or pay for itself. You can build something, create something, or destroy something for pure fun on occasion. “Because I felt like it” can still be a good reason for doing something (as long as you’re not pulling someone’s pigtails or the like.)
Running Is Fun, Especially if You Get to Chase Someone
Five year olds don’t have to be told to exercise. They’re like dogs in that sense: when they get too much energy built up, they will find a way to release it. Ever looked at a child when they’re careening madly around a giant room? It’s pure bliss. And if you can get someone to chase you, then it’s all the more fun. Remember the joy of running before someone told you that you were supposed to do it.
Other People Aren’t Competition, They’re Potential Playmates
Yeah, maybe the new guy at work is way better at database management than you. And maybe everyone likes him just a bit too much to not annoy you. But he doesn’t have to be competition. Instead of ranking yourself on an imaginary popularity scale, consider newcomers another friend to add to the roster. And maybe he has a trampoline!
If You Don’t Like the Game You’re Playing, Change the Rules
Just because the book says you’re supposed to do something one way, that doesn’t mean you have to obey. You could change the rules, create your own guidelines, or make up an entirely new game. You’re only stuck with the choices you’ve got if you’ve left your imagination back at the playground.
I’m sure these ideas aren’t new to you, but we can always use a reminder that once upon a time, life was fun. And someone along the line, it wasn’t life that stopped being full of possibilities, just the possibilities we choose to consider.






This post has 22 comments
February 13th, 2009
Hi Sara,
I love your simple posts that say so much with so few words. This is great! I especially like “play doesn’t have to have a purpose” and other people are “potential playmates”!
Daphnes last blog post..Having It All, Losing It All
February 13th, 2009
Hey Sara,
Great post. I find the most effective way I have to “decompress” my own over-inflated preoccupations is to take totally immerse myself in my 4 year old daughter’s world. The experience just seems to change everything!
Cheers,
Adam
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February 13th, 2009
Great post, and very fun idea.
I actually don’t think I needed to read it, I’m sure I party in a much more immature fashion than I should
Cheers,
Glen
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February 13th, 2009
I love this, Sara. Sometimes I look at my nearing 5 year old and know I could learn a thing or two from her. I could also use a few gallons of her energy.
Emily@remodelingthislifes last blog post..Beautiful Boy
February 13th, 2009
Sara,
This post has to be one of your best in my opinion. All your points are good reminders and we do need reminding from time to time. And your last sentence – “And someone along the line, it wasn’t life that stopped being full of possibilities, just the possibilities we choose to consider.” is so true. Each one of us is in more control of our happiness and lives than we sometimes realize.
Mark
February 13th, 2009
I love it. Just this past month, I’ve been sitting on the floor more, playing with my cats or reading or watching a movie. I haven’t done it since childhood, and it’s such a simple pleasure. It makes me feel like I’m 5 again.
Kids do things because they can, and don’t think about mussing up their clothes or getting dirty. Sometimes it’s nice to act like a kid, even if only for a moment.
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February 13th, 2009
The point about something not having to have a purpose, and capriciously switching from one item to another, can lead a person more quickly to their category of interest. Becoming fixed into a state of purpose that is hard to change can lead to missing of possibilities. Younger individuals will spend less time on something they are not interested in.
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February 13th, 2009
Hi Sara fun list. I especially like your point of not seeing others as your competition but rather potential playmates.
Something I’ve always wanted to do but haven’t since I was 5 is eat cake like a 5 year old. How awesome would that be?
Cheers,
Sherri
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February 13th, 2009
Kids are damn smart. They know how to have fun and live life! We can definitely all learn a thing or two from them.
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February 13th, 2009
Excellent post. Kids are also so forgiving at that age, I think we can learn from that too!
Stumbled
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February 13th, 2009
*spins around in a circle for five minutes*
…
*falls down from the dizziness and hurts himself*
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February 13th, 2009
These comments are cracking me up! The other day I tried spinning and, well, my equilibrium is not what it used to be. I also do not recommend playground carousels for anyone over, say, 20.
Sherri’s comment makes me wonder what other things I always wanted to do when I was five but wasn’t allowed to. That’s the best part of getting older: if you want to go face-first into a cake, no one can really stop you.
February 13th, 2009
Right on, Sara. Kids totally know what’s up. We’ve forgotten as adults how to be alive, spontaneous, and joyful.
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February 13th, 2009
Oh and here is a good one: They use their imagination to full potential (which is the heart of all creation in the universe)
Thank you for sharing, what a fun read.
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February 13th, 2009
Play doesn’t need a purpose. That’s so true and I’m so thankful that my two little daughters have retaught that to me the last few years. Whether it be building a tower of blocks or playing cars and dolls, it’s just…fun.
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February 14th, 2009
I’m all for embracing the inner kid! Nice post.
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February 15th, 2009
I LOVED this post! Especially the bit about running is better when you have someone to chase you. So true.
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February 15th, 2009
Fortunately I’ve never grown up. I’ve never lost sight of the fact that play doesn’t have to have a purpose.
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February 16th, 2009
I miss being 5 years old, for pretty much the reasons that you went into.
I like the point about changing the rules, and running doesn’t have to have a reason behind it. This makes me want to have kids!
February 16th, 2009
Great article!!! I really think these ideas actually equate back to professional growth as well. If we had more stodgy business types playing like they were 5 I think we would see some real leaders emerge.
http://joenandez.com/2009/02/16/play-like-a-5-year-old-but-in-the-office/
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February 19th, 2009
Hi Sara,
I loved this post. I totally agree with everything you wrote. The great thing when you are young is you don’t care how stupid you may look and you have no fear. So in my eyes, the best way to love life is to retain that childlike curiousity and just be in the moment. I think what ages people is that they forgot that life is supposed to be fun!
February 21st, 2009
Wow I never thought of it this way,
I remember when kids get silly and their parents tell them to keep it down or stop. When i think back to that, I think that was very devastating for them.
I think life is pretty much a game and we don’t get to keep anything when we die, except the person we have become. The money is gone, the house is gone, the cars are gone.
I will include this post on next weeks top 10 list on my blog.
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