Finding Balance Between Creativity and Family
I’m excited to share a guest post today from Lisa Leonard. As a mom, a creative worker, and a businesswoman, Lisa’s got a unique perspective on creating balance. We talked about the link between simplicity and creativity, and this is Lisa’s perspective on the topic. I hope you enjoy it!
For me, the drive to create isn’t optional. Ideas swim around in my mind, run through my veins and keep me up at night. I am driven to express myself through creativity. I have a creative business that requires me to work every day. But even if I didn’t have a business, I know I would be focusing more creative energy on decorating, entertaining… something! So the question isn’t, ‘Should I create?’ but, ‘How can I balance my need to create with my need to take care of my family?’ This is an ongoing process for me, one that I am sure a lot of moms can relate to. Here are some small tips on what works for me.
Take Breaks
I plan on taking lots of breaks. I get lots of work done while the boys are at school or after they are in bed, but there are times I need to work while they are home and awake. I try to gear up for interruptions. One will need juice; another will need a diaper change. I don’t mind asking them to wait for a couple minutes, but their needs come first and small interruptions should be expected!
Stay On Top of Your Workload
I try to stay on top of my emails and projects. I am not always successful, but when I fall behind I find myself more stressed. It is worth it for me to stay up half an hour later and finish my to-do list for the day.
Be Realistic
Speaking of to-do lists, I try to keep mine realistic. I have begun to realize that the day only holds 24 hours (shocking, I know!) and only so much can be accomplished. That’s OK, there is always tomorrow and another set of tasks to be accomplished.
Make Time for Fun
I find that we often have to get out of the house to have focused fun time. Even a trip to the grocery store can be a treat! Each child gets to choose a special snack. Stickers and balloons wait at the check stand. It’s time to focus on the boys and talk with them. Of course, we also do kid things like a trip to the park, pumpkin patch or a play date with friends. We make time for fun every day.
Get Help
I remember clearly the day when I realized I was in over my head. I had a meltdown and felt completely overwhelmed. It was a turning point for us as a family. It made sense to hire someone to help with packing and shipping. I was spending hours every week doing a task that I could have someone else do. This freed me up to have more time with my family and more creative energy to put into the business.
Don’t Wish the Time Away
Our kids are only young once… Soak up the days and enjoy them. I try to treasure our moments together and, as much as I can, I let them be a part of my work.
Share your advice with us! How do you find balance between creativity and family?
And if you’d like to read more of Lisa’s thoughts, please check out her blog at Lisa Leonard Online.






This post has 14 comments
October 31st, 2008
“Don’t wish your time away.”
I think that point is SO important. It is so easy to wish time away instead of living totally in the moment. I sometimes catch myself thinking of some work related thing during family time and have to remind myself to make the “switch” so that I can be there 100%.
Adam Steers last blog post..Were we built for wrist curls?
October 31st, 2008
Sara–I found your blog via MSN’s Smart Spending blog. I love it! I’ve found myself drawn to a more simple lifestyle, especially as I started working on my goal of transitioning over to full-time teaching and writing. I added you to my site and will definitely be a regular reader. I look forward to more.
Lisa–this is a great post. You’ve given the reader a lot to think about, as well as inspired her.
Deborah Johnson
A Writer’s Voice: http://litchick73.blogspot.com/
October 31st, 2008
I’m so glad to hear Lisa’s ideas on this, to get a glimpse of how she is able to balance her family and her creative work. Great practical ideas and so simple when she lays them out this way. Thanks Lisa!
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October 31st, 2008
I totally relate to the ongoing time-tension between being creative and having family and other relationships that need my time, as well. Here is a short piece on ways I have devised to cope successfully http://www.diamondcutlife.org/how-to-save-five-hours-a-week/
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October 31st, 2008
I am impressed. I don’t think I could ever juggle that constant work in addition to taking care of kids. I can’t even take care of me! I am glad that you have found that balance. It would be a shame if it got tilted in either way. It would be sad if your kids didn’t have enough mom time… and it would be horrible if your creativity got pushed aside.
- Jack Rugile
Simple Sapien
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October 31st, 2008
I took ten years out of work when my daughter was little, and I didn’t stop being creative. I just used my creativity differently, with no worry about being “productive” in the worldly sense, and including her in the projects. Then when she was old enough to start going off on her own I refreshed my skills and got the best job of my life. (See Making Hay While the Sun Shines.)
During this time we also bought some land in the mountains and spent our weekends working on numerous projects as a family… gardening, planting trees, building fences and sheds, even building a small tractor from a kit. So in addition to creating wonderful family memories, we gave my daughter a great practical education and let her experience the joys of creating. There was no conflict between creativity and family, they can integrate wonderfully.
Jean Browman–Cheerful Monks last blog post..What’s Your Favorite Photo?
November 1st, 2008
I am impressed with how you are able to work with your kids around.
Heidi @ GGIPs last blog post..The Big Arm and the Little Arm
November 1st, 2008
I am right there – learning to balance it now. Lisa’s words are so true, but putting it into practice is a whole new ball game. It is so tempting to multitask – as I am doing now
. It is so hard to be efficient and find the hours I need for work. But then again, I would not compromise the time with my kids ever!
Getting help is primary and the ability to change pace is key.
Great article Lisa. Love your designs too
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November 2nd, 2008
Thanks to everyone for diving into the conversation, and thanks to Lisa for starting it! It sounds like everyone has a different relationship with creativity, whether they tap into it or it just comes out.
I think I’m somewhere in the middle: the ideas come at all times, but I have to work hard to find time to execute them and really pull them out. I find Roo enough of a challenge to manage, so I’ve got lots of admiration for anyone who can balance kid-time and work-time so seamlessly!
November 4th, 2008
I’ve been really curious as to how creative moms manage to create with their children around. I find cats distracting enough – I’m with Sara in that I really admire parents who can balance parenting with creating.
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November 4th, 2008
I’m with Charlie. I have a ton of respect for those that can find that balance. I think being able to switch focus quickly and effectively is probably part of the equation.
November 4th, 2008
Lisa, This is a great post. I’d love to include it in my Life Balance Group Writing Project! My question is very similar to your question regarding how can you balance your need to create with your need to take care of your family. My life calling is to help people (especially moms) think about how they can balance the demands of being everything to everyone while not losing their own sense of self, their needs, and their passions in the process.
Stacey / Create a Balances last blog post..Top Ten Signs I May Always Look Pregnant
November 12th, 2008
I like to plan fun things first and fit other things around them.
November 14th, 2008
Stacy: Your project has been such a treat!
Big Dreams: What a cool way to make sure that you never run out of time before the fun begins.
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