What Could You Accomplish If You Truly Freed Yourself?
“If only…” may be the two cruelest words in the English language. Many of us (especially myself) will throw out “if only” as the reason why we don’t get to do everything we’d like. But the truth is that, if you’re reading this, you’ve probably got a wide array of options and opportunities available to you on some level. At some point is becomes important to realize that it’s not the five extra minutes we’re missing that is holding us back.
We have a lifetime available to us. How can we not accomplish our dreams?
In other words, what could you do if you truly freed yourself from doubts, from limitations, and from negativity. What could you do?
Accept that you have options. To start living the life you really want, the first step is to accept that you have power. Your power may be limited, but you have choices. They’re not the same choices Warren Buffett or Oprah has, but they’re there. To deny them is to throw sand into the sky and expect a rainbow. Own up to the responsibility that goes along with them and make the best of it.
Figure out what you want. Unless you’re extremely lucky—and some folks are—you won’t get to your dream life if you don’t even know what it is. Or worse yet, you may be living your ideal life and not even realize it. Figure out what you want. You may be wrong, you may change your mind later, but you’ll never get there if you don’t know where “there” is.
Scare the hell out of yourself. You don’t have to quit your job and sing for pennies. You don’t have to leave your family to sail across a faraway ocean. But you do need to push your boundaries. You’ll find your limits, trust me. But before you do, you’ll have found new depths of inner strength and greater skills and capabilities than you knew you had. You don’t have to lay everything on the line to scare the hell out of yourself, you just have to be willing to put your ego on the line.
Shake failure’s hand. Get over your past failures; they’re done. They don’t define your limitations anymore. You may be smarter, or stronger, or simply more charming than you were then. The bottom line is that your old failures simply aren’t applicable anymore. Stop hanging on them. Go find new failures that are applicable, and learn from them.
Learn to distinguish between thought and action. Both thought and action are vital, but you can’t focus on one and ignore the other. Each action deserves analysis, and every analysis deserves a follow-up action. Break that chain and that’s when the problems start. Thought and action: separate them in your head, and plug away at both equally.
So let’s hear it–what would you accomplish if you were freed from all restraints? What are some of the ways you break through the barriers in your life? Leap into the comments and share your story!






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September 4th, 2008
I think it is a matter of knowing what you want, and then prioritizing things to make it happen. We have enough time to do what is really important to us. We don’t have enough time to do everything. That’s why we need to prioritize.
Great post Sara!
September 4th, 2008
I love your writing style Sara…
Or worse yet, you may be living your ideal life and not even realize it.
At first I was going to ask you for examples, not because it sounds wrong but because I thought we would know if we were living our ideal life. I guess it comes back to appreciating all the things we have and the people around us
Great post, stumbled!
Cheers,
Glen
September 4th, 2008
I agree. We can live our dream if we identify it, stop doing other things that compete with what we really want, devise a plan to accomplish it, and then act on our dream.
Realize that it won’t happen overnight. The bigger the dream, the more likely that it will take time to make it real, but no matter the size of the dream, we can start acting on it today.
A year from now, with continued effort, you can be much closer to living your dream than you are today. Each step brings you closer and builds momentum that acts in your favor.
Act on your dream!
JD
September 4th, 2008
Thank You
Very encouraging text. Great post!
September 4th, 2008
This is an inspiring article, Sara.
I really like your reference to acknowledging that we have choices to help us achieve our life goals and that ‘to deny them is to throw sand into the sky and expect a rainbow’.
It would be great to look back at the end of every day and think to oneself ‘I made the very best of today’.
September 4th, 2008
I find that people, myself included, have a difficult time nailing down exactly what it is that we want. Once you figure that part out, asking “What’s my next step that direction?” and then TAKING it, make you feel like you’re unleashed!
September 4th, 2008
This is one of the most powering posts I have read. No wonder I just added you to my blog roll. One of my greatest dreams involves high end technology and start up funds to build it. Those are both overwhelming blocks. I think I just need to write down all of the baby steps I need to take and then tackle them one at a time.
September 4th, 2008
I love this post!
I think all of us could accomplish just what you said in your post if we didn’t let fear stand in our way.
Right now I am trying to finish a book, but keep putting it off because I’m scared of the success which might come with it (am I really afraid of the success or the opposite reaction which may occur??…I’m not sure)
September 4th, 2008
Hi Katie,
Yes, it is possible to be afraid of success.
A beautiful quote I read sometime back -
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous. Actually, who are you not to be? - Marianne Williamson”
September 4th, 2008
Sara,
Loved your post. Especially the last point. So often we do everything required in our heads and not in action
September 4th, 2008
I totally agree with you. And I also identify myself with the last point.
I think if we set it in our mind, we can accomplish our dreams. The problem often comes by not knowing what our dream is. That’s what I feel is happening to me. I left the university because I realized I don’t wanted to be a computer engineer, and I have so many interests that I feel I can’t see clearly, and can’t seem to choose one to pursue.
Anyways, great post
September 4th, 2008
This is great Sara! We are too often limiting ourselves because of our ego - that we’ll look bad (or good, for that matter). But the truth is, how can we be truly happy if we aren’t doing what our heart sings to do.
September 4th, 2008
Great great great…I hope you don’t mind, but I reference you on my blog today!! I couldn’t help but pass this message on…
September 4th, 2008
Thanks for the artical Sara. I’ve had my share of ‘if only’ things. Trying to get past that. A couple of sayings come to mind that seem to help me.
You never know what you can do until you try.
The only way to never fail is to never do anything.
September 4th, 2008
Scaring myself…? I like that. You are absolutely right about me reading your blog means I have plenty of options because I have access to tons of information through the internet. And by the way, I don’t shake failure’s hand. I pull it towards me and I give it a hug.
September 4th, 2008
Shake hands with failure — best item for me.
Great post, thank you from my heart.
p.s. I was laid off last night.
September 4th, 2008
Beautiful, articulate post! I work as a marriage and family therapy intern and I am constantly saying stuff like this to clients. Sometimes, getting someone to see that they have choices is an endeavor. So many people struggle with these themes.
September 4th, 2008
I know what I want. Now I am planing for my new life Off-grid in a house car….exciting and scary
September 4th, 2008
This is exactly what I needed today.
Thanks Sara.
September 4th, 2008
I love what you said about failure. Very true. Don’t let them scare you from trying again. If anything, see them as learning experiences.
September 4th, 2008
Thank you to everyone for the kind words; they mean more than you might know. As a writer, I loved hearing that different parts of this piece jumped out at different people. And as part of the community here, I loved hearing your different stories. Thanks for reading and taking the time to leave your thoughts!
September 7th, 2008
Hi Sara - these are all fantastic advice! Knowing we have options is indeed very powering because it gives us the ability to take control of the situation at some level. I also like “Shake failure’s hand.” Oftentimes I find that the times when I fail, it isn’t as bad as I feared it to be.
September 7th, 2008
Thanks, Al! Failures rarely seem as important years later as they do in the moment, right?
September 10th, 2008
“You don’t have to lay everything on the line to scare the hell out of yourself, you just have to be willing to put your ego on the line.”
This is beautifully profound point, shaking things up in big enough fashion to risk a bruised ego is such a powerful consideration. Sometimes even our wildness can become routine and we need to flush out our systems with an objective that scares us. What’s been scaring the hell out of you lately?
September 10th, 2008
Tom: Leaving our current location to chase a dream is what scares me. I love how you put it: “…even our wildness can become routine.” Sometimes slowing down enough to catch up with our thoughts and inner state can be downright scary!
May 9th, 2009
“Both thought and action are vital, but you can’t focus on one and ignore the other. Each action deserves analysis, and every analysis deserves a follow-up action. Break that chain and that’s when the problems start.”
The problem is that talents here are unevenly distributed. A professor of economics, for example, makes a lousy businessman — and vice versa! Division of labor is there for a reason.
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